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He had gone out the night before with two distant friends. I plan out the scenarios, foresee outcomes, plan for a way to execute it. You might say I get shit done – I’m a “doer.” Which is great. Because in love, there are times when seeds are planted that turn out to have thorns. There I was sitting across from my friend, listening to him talk about his latest sexual escapade.Whereas in the 19th century, Asian men were portrayed at the other extreme in the 19th century: sexually dangerous and desirable.The stereotype that Asian men aren’t masculine exists in a large part because of how they are portrayed in the media, not necessarily because that’s actually reflective of reality.It’s rare to hear traditional Asian parents say “I love you” to their children.It’s not rare for Asian kids to grow up on the receiving end of dictator-esque verbal instructions and scoldings.As the night progressed I became more aggressive and determined to go through with my plan.Conquering him was never it but it did play an important role. His history as a sexual deviant worked in my favor. No matter how pathetic it was, no matter how disconnected we could have been – it was sex.
But while an Asian guy’s table manners may be impeccable, other “gentlemanly” behaviours like opening the car door, helping a lady put on her jacket, etc, are not lessons that parents typically focused on teaching. The odd Jackie Chan movie as the exception, you hardly see the Asian guy as hunky, masculine star of the show.That’s when a rotten seed began to grow its rotten thought into my rotten brain.It was the weekend, and typical of our behavior we had fought and broken up.Challenge him to a game of Pai Gow or Big 2 and he’ll drink you under the table. Also, living with a romantic partner pre-marriage is generally looked down upon, which is another reason why many asians wait until marriage to move out. With a big emphasis on “taking care” of those around you.
For example, at the dinner table, it is a blasphemy to serve yourself food first and immediately start eating. Unfortunately, we are influenced by what we see in the media whether we are conscious of it or not.
In the book Freakonomics, one study showed that single Asians (male) had to make 7,000 more annually to receive the same response rate as White men on online dating sites. Asian males are not portrayed as masculine, whereas Asian females are stereotyped as submissive, exotic.” What gives?!